Be Brave, Be Bold
THE RULES: Each couple brings a bottle of #wine and a petite food pairing that matches the wine. Each guest gives a little toast at the beginning of their turn. They explain where they got the wine, why the chose to bring it, and why they chose the pairing. Sometimes the #stories are silly or interesting, sometimes they’re generic, but they’re always fun! Everyone then tastes each wine and pairing together.
We ended up with about 20 people, which is a lot more than we initially thought would come and freaked me out because I knew I’d have to give a toast. I mean, it is my husband’s birthday after all, right? So, I drank a little more wine than I would’ve normally, which made my #speech a little more rambley than I would’ve liked, but even still, it was a good speech. I gave a toast at the end of the tastings thanking everyone for coming and participating, even though some don’t enjoy or know wine, just to be there for Chris. Afterwards, my father-in-law came up to me, incredulous that I don’t like public speaking because I made such a great toast, and I just shrugged.
#Anxiety sucks. It gets in your head and tells you that you’re bad. I know I’m a good public speaker; I know once I start talking, I’ll be fine; I know if I write a speech out, it’s going to be a good one, but my anxiety tells me that it’s bad, or that I’ll fumble over my words (which sometimes I do), or that every mistake I make will be the end of the world.
This is what it’s like putting my #writing out in the world. I know I’m usually a good #writer (man that was hard to say), but when it comes to showing other people my work, or hell, even publishing blog posts, it’s nerve-racking. I start thinking that I’m not good enough, that I’m not putting my best foot forward. But like with public speaking, it’s something I’m pushing past, and unlike public speaking, I’m not drinking my way through it. I’m trying to have more faith in myself and the words I put down on paper, and I encourage all of you to do the same. Speak your mind, write that essay, submit that poem. Be brave and bold and DO ALL THE THINGS.